Many new dads wonder how they can connect with their baby, especially in the early months when interactions can feel a little one-sided. You might talk, sing or play, only to receive a tiny response in return.

However, these early moments are incredibly important. Your baby is learning about you, your voice, your expressions and the world around them.

You are one of your baby’s most important sources of comfort, connection and learning. Through everyday interactions, you help your baby develop confidence, communication skills and a strong emotional bond with you.

Have fun and bring out your playful side

Playing with your baby is a great way to build connection. Babies are fascinated by faces, voices, movement, sounds and new experiences.

You do not need expensive toys or activities. Often, the best entertainment for your baby is you.

Try:

  • Making funny faces
  • Singing songs
  • Making silly sounds
  • Doing a funny dance
  • Playing with different textures and safe objects
  • Copying your baby’s sounds and expressions

Your baby is learning through these simple interactions, and you are building a relationship at the same time.

Talk to your baby

It can feel strange talking to someone who cannot answer back, but your baby loves hearing your voice.

Talking helps your baby become familiar with language and communication. You can simply describe what you are doing, talk about what you see or respond to your baby’s sounds and expressions.

For example:

  • “We are going for a walk now.”
  • “You look very happy today.”
  • “I think you like this song.”

Babies often respond well to the exaggerated expressions and higher-pitched voices adults naturally use when talking to them.

Get down to your baby’s level

Your baby experiences the world from a very different perspective. Getting down on the floor with them helps you connect and see things from their point of view.

You might lie beside your baby on their play mat, make sounds, smile, sing or show them safe objects to explore.

These simple moments help your baby learn that you are someone who is interested, responsive and available.

Let your baby look at your face

To your baby, your face is one of the most fascinating things in the world.

Eye contact, smiles and facial expressions all help your baby learn about emotions and communication.

As your baby grows, simple games like making funny faces or copying each other’s expressions can become a source of laughter and connection.

Make everyday care moments count

Bonding does not only happen during play. Everyday care routines provide some of the best opportunities to connect with your baby.

Changing nappies, bathing, feeding, settling and getting dressed are all chances to talk, cuddle and build familiarity.

You might sing during bath time, talk while changing a nappy or gently play during quiet moments together.

Enjoy cuddles and physical connection

Babies need physical comfort and closeness. Holding, cuddling and comforting your baby helps them feel safe and connected.

Your touch, voice and presence all help your baby learn that they are cared for and loved.

Play simple games together

Simple games are enjoyable for both you and your baby and help support learning and development.

Ideas include:

  • Copying your baby’s sounds
  • Playing peek-a-boo
  • Singing songs with actions
  • Making expressions for your baby to copy
  • Rolling a soft ball as your baby gets older

The goal is not to teach your baby specific skills. It is about sharing enjoyable moments together.

Think about the relationship you want to build

The bond you develop with your baby grows through thousands of small interactions over time.

Think about the things you enjoy and how you might share them with your child as they grow. This could be reading together, exploring outdoors, playing sport, creating traditions or simply spending time together.

The relationship starts now, through the everyday moments you share.

Keep interactions short and responsive

Babies can only manage small amounts of stimulation at a time. Short, regular interactions are often more valuable than long periods of activity.

Pay attention to your baby’s cues. They may show they need a break by looking away, becoming unsettled or losing interest.

Following your baby’s signals helps them learn that you understand and respond to their needs.

Resources for new dads

Baby Steps is a free online program designed to support new mums and dads with practical information about caring for a baby and looking after their own wellbeing.

You can also explore our other fatherhood resources: